Nobita has doubts about marrying Shizuka in Stand by Me Doraemon 2. What Nobita felt was real suddenly felt doubtful and disappeared before the wedding ceremony. The effects of fatigue before the wedding that have an impact on temporary emotions can also happen to you, especially before the D-Day.
Nobita’s doubts before the wedding was caused by stress that started with a number of questions in his mind. Questions that make Nobita hesitate to marry Shizuka as told at the beginning of the story, such as:
- Is Shizuka really the right person for me?
- Can I make Shizuka happy?
- Will my marriage be happy with Shizuka?
Even though Nobita really wants to marry Shizuka. His ideal woman since childhood, but Nobita is afraid that he is not confident in his own abilities that he can’t make Shizuka happy after marriage.
As Nobita feels, marriage is not only a big decision that can change the lives of two people, but also brings big changes to Nobita and Shizuka’s family. This change is prone to be filled with conflict and stress for those who are preparing for marriage.
Nobita’s attitude that prefers to run away and doesn’t want to talk about how he feels before the wedding with Shizuka
If you suddenly feel doubt about the wedding with your partner, as Nobila feels. It should be understood, this doubt is not a sign you have to cancel your marriage. The right way is you have to find out the root cause of your doubts.
Suddenly you feel doubt before the wedding that appears not only from the stress factor due to the lack of communication between you and your partner. But also the fear of entering a “foreign” situation you can’t predict for sure what the future will look like.
The key to relieving stress before marriage is that you have to strengthen communication with your partner. What made you want to marry him? What positive things made you want to marry him? Talk about anything that makes you doubt.
Talk honestly and openly about what you want in your marriage. It’s okay if you and he want to involve the family, and don’t hesitate to share your opinion on how you feel.
Small or trivial that you feel must be addressed immediately before the wedding. It is recommended that you look for positive activities that you can both do, such as exercising, playing games, reading books, watching movies, or doing your favorite hobbies together.
If you don’t want to be bothered with all wedding matters, then you can use a wedding organizer. You two can discuss what kind of marriage you want, then let them work and you both just have to watch it.
The advantage of a wedding organizer is that it can reduce unnecessary costs to prevent you from stress before the wedding, such as the problem of inflated costs. All of the above methods are a means of releasing emotions from the distraction of negative thoughts that arise.
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The reason Nobita suddenly felt doubts before the wedding was due to trust issues towards himself and Shizuka as his future wife
When Nobita decided to marry Shizuka, he had actually committed to anything that might happen in marriage. Marriage requires trust in each other to minimize the possibility of separation in the future. If you feel doubts before the wedding like Nobita feels.
It is recommended to consult a marriage psychologist who can help you deal with stress before marriage and minimize the possibility of separation in the future. Also invite your partner so he can understand how you feel. Support from your partner can help you be calmer in preparing everything until the wedding day comes.
3 valuable lessons that can be learned from Nobita has doubts about marrying Shizuka in Stand by Me Doraemon 2
1. Are you ready to accept your partner’s true nature after marriage?
The scene where the young and adult Nobita is almost dying, the adult Nobita is trapped in the young Nobita’s body. At first Nobita was hesitant to marry Shizuka. But there are words from young Shizuka that make Nobita realize and believe in himself.
“Let’s be who you are”, was the young Shizuka’s words to Nobita that made him realize. That Shizuka accepted Nobita’s true character before they decided to get married. Shizuka already knows Nobita’s character very well, which sometimes irritates Shizuka.
This also applies to those of you who decide to get married. Even though you’ve been dating for a long time, the world of marriage still presents “something new” beyond expectations, especially the behavior of a partner that can irritate you.
You must be ready to accept the original character of your partner. All of this will become clear after you are married. So, before you decide to marry him. Get to know the true character of your partner.
2. Are you ready to accept and still love your partner no matter the conditions?
Nobita and Shizuka both understand each other’s true character. Nobita and Shizuka have their own way of refreshing their relationship as well as their monotonous routine. The question is, do you guys have your own way of dealing with boredom like Nobita and Shizuka did?
No matter what Shizuka looks like, Nobita still loves her. Including Shizuka too. When you are still dating, the two of you are always presented with fresh and fashionable make-up. After marriage, the two of you will often be presented with the natural appearance of your partner, such as fatigue, a wrinkled face, and messy hair.
3. Have you tolerated and had generosity in your relationship?
Have you been able to suppress your own ego? As you have watched in Stand by Me Doraemon 2. Nobita has a strong desire to protect Shizuka’s feelings. Nobita wants to synergize with Shizuka to create a warm and happy family.
Because Nobita has felt the warmth of his parents and Shizuka’s parents. This is what makes Nobita willing to change his attitude to be more in line with married life. Nobita balances his life with Shizuka to achieve the warmth of his family and the happiness of his marriage.
A healthy and happy marriage is the forerunner of a harmonious family. This harmony can shape the mental growth of children to be healthy too. A marriage that is full of toxic behavior, children can grow up to be toxic individuals as well.
Thank you for reading this article. Hope it is useful. If you have the same experience, please share. Maybe we can all learn from your experience.
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